After about Day 3 of being hungry, I questioned why I felt the need to go on a ‘health regimen’ before the wedding while Bryan, my fiancé, didn’t. “Well, he doesn’t need to,” I thought to myself and went back to eating my salad, thinking nothing more.
After about 10 days of being hungry and cheating with carbs here or there, I realized that if there was no healthy food around, I would maybe eat something “unhealthy” because, while I wanted to eat better, I wasn’t about to starve myself either.
After two weeks of slowly breaking more and more of my diet, I came back to my original thought. Why was I doing this to myself? Why wasn’t Bryan worried about eating healthy or working out? The same thought occurred to me again – well, he really doesn’t need to.
And then it hit me. He doesn’t need to because, in my eyes, he looks pretty damn fine. He’s healthy, comfortable with his body and he knows I love him the way he is. Didn’t I feel the same way? There has never been one point in time where he’s made me feel insecure about myself. In fact, he makes me feel more comfortable about my image than anyone.
I told myself when I first got engaged I wouldn’t stress myself over a “wedding diet” and yet I ended up doing so anyways. Why? WHYYY? Maybe I’ll blame all those wedding blogs I read with all the gorgeous pixie-forest-nymph brides. Can I just see some really short brides with hips here or there? DAMN YOU PIXIE-FOREST-NYMPHS!
Anyways, needless to say, I said “to hell with it” because dieting was really annoying and my fiancé agreed to marry me the way I am, so the only one with stupid expectations was myself.
And I mean, so many brides go through this. Living day-to-day is hard enough on your image as a woman, but as a bride somehow you get this idea you should be this glowing bastion of feminine perfection. Sure, try to look your best, but consider where the image of “your best” is coming from. Is it coming from reality? Or photoshopped magazines? Or women with body types you can never emulate unless you rearrange your bone structure? Your fiance loves you for who you are right now and that’s why this whole dang wedding is happening in the first place.
Anyways, I’m not against people trying to lose weight for their wedding. I just think we brides need to take a closer look at our motives for going on “health regimens,” and whether they’re as good for us, both mentally and physically, as we think.
I mean, I’m still going to exercise, but instead of guilting myself into miserable sit ups and eating celery, I’m just gonna dance to Austra remixes alone in my room. F U WEDDING INDUSTRY. BRB.
































